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Tuesday, December 25, 2012
The Beauty of The Ball Gag
The ball gag is a common toy used in the B.D.S.M community. It is one of those things that has no gray area, you ether love it or hate it. I can tell you this very small and unassuming sex toy carries a vary deep psychological exchange between the Sub & the Dom. The most satisfying of these exchanges is that it allows the Sub to fully let go vocally. Meaning they can scream and moan as loud as they want but still be restrained and heavily subdued. As for the Dom the act of subduing the moans and screams while taking a Sub into multiple orgasms can be rather intoxicating. So in short enduring a session of forced orgasm with a ball gag can be more then quite satisfying for both the Dom & Sub. I don't want to forget to and that the sex appeal of a Sub in a ball gag is quite the turn on to most Dom's, not to mention that the amount of spit (saliva) produced by wearing a ball gag is some what a aphrodisiac for most Dom's (myself included). So to anyone who has not tried one out I suggest giving it a go. It might just add something you never know was missing.
Top Ten Bondage Positions #10
10. The cradle
The cradle is an old favorite that I like to use every once and a while. This is a great bondage position when you want to deliver an orally stimulated orgasm punishment. As you can see from the picture she is in a restrained that doesn't allow for to much movement, besides a futile roll from side to side. This is also a good position to use in the beginning of a B.D.S.M relationship. It gives a sub a scene of protection because of the fetal position. The sub can curl up more by bringing there head to their knees but that doesn't cover or make the genitals inaccessible to you. It is one of those positions that makes a sub secure and venerable at the same time.
The cradle is an old favorite that I like to use every once and a while. This is a great bondage position when you want to deliver an orally stimulated orgasm punishment. As you can see from the picture she is in a restrained that doesn't allow for to much movement, besides a futile roll from side to side. This is also a good position to use in the beginning of a B.D.S.M relationship. It gives a sub a scene of protection because of the fetal position. The sub can curl up more by bringing there head to their knees but that doesn't cover or make the genitals inaccessible to you. It is one of those positions that makes a sub secure and venerable at the same time.
Wednesday, December 5, 2012
Orgasm control for sub/slave is an extremely vital part of their training.
How Bondage and Multiple Orgasms Could Enforce Control of Your Submissive.
Orgasm Control
In another article we discussed the way orgasm control is used to
increase the control a dominant has over his or her submissive. Control
over a person's right to sexual release leads to a very strong bond of
interdependence between the two parties. Orgasm control also has another
element to it in BDSM - that of forced orgasm. What is a forced orgasm
and why would this be a tool of dominance? Before we answer that
question we are going to look at exactly what an orgasm is and how we
can make sure that orgasm really is achieved. 52% of women have faked
and continues to fake orgasms today. The dominant needs to know what to
look for in order to use this tool properly. We will then look at how we
achieve a forced orgasm.
What exactly is an orgasm?What! You think we don't know? Well if you know how to identify it, take this as a refresher or contact my dominant and make him make me pay for this flagrant abuse of power. Anyway, during the female orgasm the body stiffens and muscles in the vagina, uterus and or other parts of the body such as the arms, legs, back or stomach contract involuntarily. Due to an increase in heartbeat the skin may look flushed and the genitals seem engorged. The glands of the vagina discharge a watery secretion that lubricates the area and sometimes this secretion seem to "squirt" out of the woman especially when the g-spot has been stimulated. Women can have multiple orgasms following each other in quick succession.
The male orgasm is seemingly much harder to fake as the male ejaculates a milky white substance on release. The pelvic thrusts of the male become less controlled, heart rate and blood flow increases and some muscle spasms may be felt in other parts of the body. Some men report only having the psychological orgasm after ejaculation and some men even report that they can have orgasms without ejaculation. Males generally need a period of rest before being able to orgasm again.
In most cases orgasm is vocal and the sense of release is often accompanied by less than elegant grunts or screams for both men and women.
How is orgasm achieved?
No, I don't think you guys are clueless. I aim to inform as best I can. One of the main ways of achieving or causing orgasm is by stimulating the penis or the clitoris or g-spot in women. This can be done by use of vibrators, masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, non-penetrative sex, erotic electro stimulation, spanking etc. Orgasm in women can also be achieved by stimulation of any other erogenous zone or using psychological stimulation.
How is forced orgasm achieved and what exactly is it?
Forced orgasm is when the dominant brings the submissive to an orgasm while the submissive attempts to delay that orgasm for as long as they can. After the first orgasm the dominant will normally continue the process and cause multiple orgasms despite the discomfort a female submissive will feel, as her genitals might be sensitive. Males will be continually stimulated despite the period of rest that would normally be required after an orgasm.
How is this normally done? Well, the submissive could be tied down in order for the genitals to be accessible and the submissive should not be able to move much. Then the dominant could use any of the techniques mentioned earlier in the article to cause continual orgasm.
Why is forced orgasm such an attractive option for both dominants and submissives?
For the submissive forced orgasm is a wonderful experience because he or she knows that release follows even when discomfort is felt in between. It plays on the pleasure and pain principles that are central to quite lot of erotic stimulation in BDSM. The submissive can also relax and has no need to feel shame, as he or she has no control over the orgasm or when it happens. The submissive can just be submissive and safe. The submissive with sexual guilt issues can express their sexuality freely in this way and this will help that submissive to experience sex differently and much more positively.
The dominant partner will have different reasons for being attracted to this form of play. The aim might be to cause the submissive to become addicted to orgasm in order to pave the way for a period of orgasm denial. Remember that orgasm denial can be achieved in a variety of ways that are detailed in another article of mine like teasing and tying, teasing and denying and chastity devices. During orgasm denial no orgasms are allowed anymore. The dominant partner might also want to use this form of play as punishment for a submissive partner that cannot control their own sexual impulses and cannot obey rules on masturbation.
The control factor is a head rush for most dominants and the physical reactions of the submissive cause arousal and excitement for the dominant partner too.
As with all BDSM activities a safe word can be used to stop all activities.
By Bea Amor
Sunday, December 2, 2012
Saturday, December 1, 2012
Thoughts on Aftercare by FoolsGypsy
Aftercare is different for everyone, some people need alot others need barely anything. Here are some aftercare tips we use.
What does the acronym B.D.S.M stand for?
What does the acronym B.D.S.M stand for? well lets break it down shall we.
1. Bondage and Discipline (B&D or B/D)
2. Dominance and Submission (D&S or D/s)
3. Sadomasochism or Sadism and Masochism (S&M or S/M)
4. Submissive / Slave & Master (S&M or S/M)
So what ever type of B.D.S.M you find yourself being satisfied by it will be a mix or aspect of 1 or 2 or all of these aspects
1. Bondage and Discipline (B&D or B/D)
2. Dominance and Submission (D&S or D/s)
3. Sadomasochism or Sadism and Masochism (S&M or S/M)
4. Submissive / Slave & Master (S&M or S/M)
So what ever type of B.D.S.M you find yourself being satisfied by it will be a mix or aspect of 1 or 2 or all of these aspects
Ten Commandments for Submissives
1) Be Patient
A potential top will let you know if she or he is interested in you or not. Keep in mind that your purpose as a submissive is to serve and to satisfy someone who will take into consideration the realization of your fantasies. Don't expect your top to be able to turn on like a light switch. The timing must be right for both of you.
2) Be Humble
You may be God's or Goddess' gift to the world and the most sought after prize in town, but no one needs to hear it or wants to hear it. You will have ample opportunity to show how good you are. No matter what you claim, the "real you" will show through in a scene. Don't set yourself up for failure by developing expectations that you know you and your top can never reach.
3) Be Open
You can learn something about SM and about yourself from everyone into the scene, no matter how experienced or inexperienced they are, or how dominant or submissive they are. SM is a very personal art, and an "I already know it all" attitude will make you miss valuable SM lessons and experiences, and ignore potentially valuable SM friends.
4) Communicate
Verbalization is necessary, but at the appropriate time and in the appropriate way. Your top needs to know basic information about you, such as experiences, fantasies, health concerns, and turn-offs. But -unless it's an emergency - wait until your top asks. Don't expect your dominant to be a mind-reader instinctively knows your needs, wants, and limits. Your cooperation will enhance the scene for both of you.
5) Be Honest
Don't be afraid to share your needs and fantasies. Your dominant expects it. Honesty about your wants, health concerns, and turn-offs is essential to a good scene. Lying or being less than candid can only lead to problems, as the top will base the scene on inaccurate information. Besides causing problems, it can be dangerous.
6) Be Vulnerable
Your scene is a two-way street. It is not just the physical realization of your prior fantasies. If you want to limit your experience to certain physical and psychological stimulation, then contract with your top ahead of time. But don't always expect your top to be a puppet in a fantasy play you've written in your head. It's far better to let your top surprise you, to extend your limits, to take you to places you're never been before. When you trust your top completely, let her or him know it, and let him or her guide you into new fantasies.
7) Be Realistic
Your dominant is human, and even the most experienced tops have moments of awkwardness and indecision. Don't call attention to what you perceive as a lapse. Know the difference between reality and the fantasy world you see in books and magazines. Few tops are rich enough to afford a large dungeon with a lavish layout of equipment...Your top's equipment is expensive - respect it and don't abuse it.
8) Be Really Submissive
This is the whole point. Let your dominant take you over completely. Don't coach or second guess or be critical of your top. Exchange information on your special needs before the scene starts, but once it starts be quiet! If you insist on running a scene to your own specifications, then you should try being a top. You have agreed to limitations of your own power. Stay within those limitations. Respect and obey your top and expect punishment if you don't. Accept it gracefully and cheerfully. Your top has many things to be concerned with, including your safety and what turns you on. Be loyal and dependable and enjoy your role.
9) Be Healthy
SM, like any strenuous activity, requires that its participants - both active and passive - be in top physical and emotional health. The amount you sleep, your eating habits, your alcohol and drug intake, and everyday stress affect your response and endurance during a scene. Your dominant needs to know when your physical or emotional energy is low. No matter how tempting a scene sounds, an "I want it all now" attitude when you aren't able to give your all will leave both of you feeling let down. You serve your dominant and yourself by staying healthy.
10) Have Fun
After all, sex is all about having a good time. You have earned and you are entitled to the unique, intense pleasure which comes from responsible, creative SM play.
A potential top will let you know if she or he is interested in you or not. Keep in mind that your purpose as a submissive is to serve and to satisfy someone who will take into consideration the realization of your fantasies. Don't expect your top to be able to turn on like a light switch. The timing must be right for both of you.
2) Be Humble
You may be God's or Goddess' gift to the world and the most sought after prize in town, but no one needs to hear it or wants to hear it. You will have ample opportunity to show how good you are. No matter what you claim, the "real you" will show through in a scene. Don't set yourself up for failure by developing expectations that you know you and your top can never reach.
3) Be Open
You can learn something about SM and about yourself from everyone into the scene, no matter how experienced or inexperienced they are, or how dominant or submissive they are. SM is a very personal art, and an "I already know it all" attitude will make you miss valuable SM lessons and experiences, and ignore potentially valuable SM friends.
4) Communicate
Verbalization is necessary, but at the appropriate time and in the appropriate way. Your top needs to know basic information about you, such as experiences, fantasies, health concerns, and turn-offs. But -unless it's an emergency - wait until your top asks. Don't expect your dominant to be a mind-reader instinctively knows your needs, wants, and limits. Your cooperation will enhance the scene for both of you.
5) Be Honest
Don't be afraid to share your needs and fantasies. Your dominant expects it. Honesty about your wants, health concerns, and turn-offs is essential to a good scene. Lying or being less than candid can only lead to problems, as the top will base the scene on inaccurate information. Besides causing problems, it can be dangerous.
6) Be Vulnerable
Your scene is a two-way street. It is not just the physical realization of your prior fantasies. If you want to limit your experience to certain physical and psychological stimulation, then contract with your top ahead of time. But don't always expect your top to be a puppet in a fantasy play you've written in your head. It's far better to let your top surprise you, to extend your limits, to take you to places you're never been before. When you trust your top completely, let her or him know it, and let him or her guide you into new fantasies.
7) Be Realistic
Your dominant is human, and even the most experienced tops have moments of awkwardness and indecision. Don't call attention to what you perceive as a lapse. Know the difference between reality and the fantasy world you see in books and magazines. Few tops are rich enough to afford a large dungeon with a lavish layout of equipment...Your top's equipment is expensive - respect it and don't abuse it.
8) Be Really Submissive
This is the whole point. Let your dominant take you over completely. Don't coach or second guess or be critical of your top. Exchange information on your special needs before the scene starts, but once it starts be quiet! If you insist on running a scene to your own specifications, then you should try being a top. You have agreed to limitations of your own power. Stay within those limitations. Respect and obey your top and expect punishment if you don't. Accept it gracefully and cheerfully. Your top has many things to be concerned with, including your safety and what turns you on. Be loyal and dependable and enjoy your role.
9) Be Healthy
SM, like any strenuous activity, requires that its participants - both active and passive - be in top physical and emotional health. The amount you sleep, your eating habits, your alcohol and drug intake, and everyday stress affect your response and endurance during a scene. Your dominant needs to know when your physical or emotional energy is low. No matter how tempting a scene sounds, an "I want it all now" attitude when you aren't able to give your all will leave both of you feeling let down. You serve your dominant and yourself by staying healthy.
10) Have Fun
After all, sex is all about having a good time. You have earned and you are entitled to the unique, intense pleasure which comes from responsible, creative SM play.
Practicing my slave Positions - Skin Diamond
So I'm currently training as a slave for
www.trainingofo.com at the KINK.com armory and some people expressed
interest on what the 12 slave positions that I'm learning look like.
Friday, November 30, 2012
Ten Commandments for Dominants
1) Be Patient
Until you enter into a contract with a submissive, you have no more right to order him/her around than does anyone else. Give you bottom time to get to know you and what you like. Finesse and subtlety are major elements of dominance. Similarly, strength and gentleness go hand in hand. The sensitivity and awareness (or lack thereof) that you show in the real world is likely to be repeated in the playroom.
2) Be Humble
You may be God's/Goddess' gift to the world, but no one needs to hear it or wants to hear it. You will have ample opportunities to show how good you are - and plenty of opportunities to make a fool of yourself. No matter what you claim, the real you will show through in a scene. Don't set yourself up for a failure by developing expectations that you know you can never reach.
3) Be Open
Although the top is classically considered to be the teacher in SM, you can always learn from your bottom, no matter how inexperienced. Be willing to learn from other dominants who may have a totally different perspective from yours. Try to approach by-now-familiar trips with an attitude of wonderment and discovery. Be aware that everyone has her or his own personal style.
4) Communicate
You are responsible for finding out basic, essential information about the people you play with, such as experience, limits, likes and dislikes, and health information. Playing SM without this knowledge is like Russian roulette. Talk about your head-space and you review of SM with your bottom, so that any uncertainties can be dealt with before you start playing. Clearly spell out roles, rules, limits and contracts. Do not take for granted that your bottom instinctively knows the ground rules.
5) Be Honest
If you lack experience in an area that your bottom would like to experiment with, be honest about it. Your partner has a right to know that. Be honest with yourself and take your submissive only to those levels at which you are completely in control of the situation. Safety should always be the first concern, taking priority over how hot a particular scene is.
6) Be Sensitive
There's a very fine line between a sensitive, caring dominate and a self-righteous, insensitive overbearing clod. Your scene should be a creative synthesis of you needs and fantasies, and your bottoms needs and fantasies. Although, on the surface, your submissive is serving you, what actually is happening is that dominant and submissive are serving each other. Earn the complete trust of your submissive and never violate or even threaten to violate that trust. His or her submission is a gift to you. Use it appropriately.
7) Be Realistic
End the scene with the bottom wanting more, not wishing there had been less. Remember that power, control, and sensitivity are the keys, no just the intensity of the stimulation. Be clear about what is fantasy, and has little to do with what works in practice. Your favorite porno picture books may be stimulating in themselves, but don't try to imitate them to the last detail.
8) Be Really Dominant
Submissive are looking for someone who will take over their body and mind, not just for brute strength. Real people are wanted, not just cardboard images from ads or stereotypes. Your dominance enhances you whole existence. It does not cover up or substitute for other areas of your life - it is you. Make your submissive fall in love with you, and expect them to give themselves up to you totally. Follow up on rules, expect obedience, and punish appropriately when it is called for. Don't shirk your responsibility to your bottom or to your sister/fellow tops. Be dependable and expect dependability. You have agreed to take the dominant role - now take it!
9) Be Healthy
Like any strenuous activity, SM requires that its participants be in top physical and emotional health. Many factors, including the amount you sleep, your eating habits, and your alcohol and drug intake affect your performance and endurance during a scene. Don’t attempt to do SM when your physical or emotional energy is low. As a dominant you have a special responsibility to be in control of yourself and on top of the scene. An attitude of drugs and alcohol don't affect me that much...I can do it anyway violates your submissive trust in you and can be dangerous. If you don't want to accept the responsibilities, you shouldn't be playing the game!
10) Have Fun
After all; sex is all about having a good time. You have earned, and you are entitled to the unique intense pleasures which come from responsible, creative SM play.
Until you enter into a contract with a submissive, you have no more right to order him/her around than does anyone else. Give you bottom time to get to know you and what you like. Finesse and subtlety are major elements of dominance. Similarly, strength and gentleness go hand in hand. The sensitivity and awareness (or lack thereof) that you show in the real world is likely to be repeated in the playroom.
2) Be Humble
You may be God's/Goddess' gift to the world, but no one needs to hear it or wants to hear it. You will have ample opportunities to show how good you are - and plenty of opportunities to make a fool of yourself. No matter what you claim, the real you will show through in a scene. Don't set yourself up for a failure by developing expectations that you know you can never reach.
3) Be Open
Although the top is classically considered to be the teacher in SM, you can always learn from your bottom, no matter how inexperienced. Be willing to learn from other dominants who may have a totally different perspective from yours. Try to approach by-now-familiar trips with an attitude of wonderment and discovery. Be aware that everyone has her or his own personal style.
4) Communicate
You are responsible for finding out basic, essential information about the people you play with, such as experience, limits, likes and dislikes, and health information. Playing SM without this knowledge is like Russian roulette. Talk about your head-space and you review of SM with your bottom, so that any uncertainties can be dealt with before you start playing. Clearly spell out roles, rules, limits and contracts. Do not take for granted that your bottom instinctively knows the ground rules.
5) Be Honest
If you lack experience in an area that your bottom would like to experiment with, be honest about it. Your partner has a right to know that. Be honest with yourself and take your submissive only to those levels at which you are completely in control of the situation. Safety should always be the first concern, taking priority over how hot a particular scene is.
6) Be Sensitive
There's a very fine line between a sensitive, caring dominate and a self-righteous, insensitive overbearing clod. Your scene should be a creative synthesis of you needs and fantasies, and your bottoms needs and fantasies. Although, on the surface, your submissive is serving you, what actually is happening is that dominant and submissive are serving each other. Earn the complete trust of your submissive and never violate or even threaten to violate that trust. His or her submission is a gift to you. Use it appropriately.
7) Be Realistic
End the scene with the bottom wanting more, not wishing there had been less. Remember that power, control, and sensitivity are the keys, no just the intensity of the stimulation. Be clear about what is fantasy, and has little to do with what works in practice. Your favorite porno picture books may be stimulating in themselves, but don't try to imitate them to the last detail.
8) Be Really Dominant
Submissive are looking for someone who will take over their body and mind, not just for brute strength. Real people are wanted, not just cardboard images from ads or stereotypes. Your dominance enhances you whole existence. It does not cover up or substitute for other areas of your life - it is you. Make your submissive fall in love with you, and expect them to give themselves up to you totally. Follow up on rules, expect obedience, and punish appropriately when it is called for. Don't shirk your responsibility to your bottom or to your sister/fellow tops. Be dependable and expect dependability. You have agreed to take the dominant role - now take it!
9) Be Healthy
Like any strenuous activity, SM requires that its participants be in top physical and emotional health. Many factors, including the amount you sleep, your eating habits, and your alcohol and drug intake affect your performance and endurance during a scene. Don’t attempt to do SM when your physical or emotional energy is low. As a dominant you have a special responsibility to be in control of yourself and on top of the scene. An attitude of drugs and alcohol don't affect me that much...I can do it anyway violates your submissive trust in you and can be dangerous. If you don't want to accept the responsibilities, you shouldn't be playing the game!
10) Have Fun
After all; sex is all about having a good time. You have earned, and you are entitled to the unique intense pleasures which come from responsible, creative SM play.
Sample Consensual Contract (Generic)
This contract is provided as a secure and binding agreement
which defines in specific terms the relationship and interaction between
two individuals, hereafter termed the slave and the master (both
terms are intended to be independant of sex). This agreement is legal
and binding. This agreement must be entered voluntarily, but cannot be
broken except under the conditions stated herein, after which certain
precautions shall be taken to protect those involved. (See section
7.0.0)
1.0.0 Slave's Role
The slave agrees to submit completely to the master in all ways. There are no boundaries of place, time, or situation in which the slave may willfully refuse to obey the directive of the master without risking punishment, except in situations where the slave's veto (see section 1.0.1) applies. The slave also agrees that, once entered into the Slavery Contract, their body belongs to their master ,, to be used as seen fit, within the guidelines defined herein. All of the slave's possessions likewise belong to the master , including all assets, finances, and material goods, to do with as they see fit. The slave agrees to please the master to the best of their ability, in that they now exist solely for the pleasure of said master .
1.0.1 Slave's Veto
The slave, where appropriate, holds veto power over any command given by the master , at which time they may rightfully refuse to obey that command. This power may only be invoked under the following circumstances, or where agreed by both master and slave:
3.0.0 Punishment
The slave agrees to accept any punishment the master decides to inflict, whether earned or not.
3.0.1 Rules of Punishment
Punishment of the slave is subject to certain rules designed to protect the slave from intentional abuse or permanent bodily harm (see 4.0.0). Punishment must not incur permanent bodily harm, or the following forms of abuse:
Since the body of the slave now belongs to the master , it is the master's responsibility to protect that body from permanent bodily harm. Should the slave ever come to permanent bodily harm during the course of punishment or in any other slavery related activity, whether by intention or accident, it will be grounds for immediate termination of this contract, should the slave so desire. Permanent bodily harm shall be determined as:
The slave may not seek any other master or lover or relate to others in any sexual or submissive way without the master's permission. To do so will be considered a breach of contract, and will result in extreme punishment. The master may accept other slaves or lovers, but must consider the slave's emotional response to such actions and act accordingly. Under no circumstance should the master allow such actions to unbalance the slave emotionally, or allow such actions to result in ignoring the slave . The master may give the slave to other masters, provided the rules of this contract are upheld. In such a situation, the master will inform the new master of the provisions stated herein, and any breach by the new master will be considered a breach by the master as well, subject to all rules stated in this contract.
6.0.0 Secrecy
All physical evidence of the slavery will be kept in total secrecy, except where both master and slave agree. Any violation of this clause shall be cause to terminate this contract, should the injured party wish it. The materials and physical evidence shall be kept under lock and key in a place acceptable to both parties.
7.0.0 Alteration of Contract
This contract may not be altered, except when both master and slave agree. If the contract is altered, the new contract shall be printed and signed, and then the old contract must be destroyed.
8.0.0 Termination of Contract
This contract may be terminated at any time by the master , but never by the slave, except under special conditions explained within this contract. Upon termination, all physical evidence of the slavery, including this contract, will be destroyed, and all materials and belongings shall belong to the master , to be shared or kept as they see fit. The slave , owning nothing and having agreed to give up all worldly possessions and body to the master , shall once again own their body, but nothing else, unless the master decides to give back their possessions.
9.0.0 Slave's Signature
I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to give everything I own to my master, and further accept their claim of ownership over my physical body. I understand tha I will be commanded and trained and punished as a slave, and I promise to be true and to fulfill the pleasures and desires of my master to the best of my abilities. I understand that I cannot withdraw from this contract except as stated in this contract.
Signature:____________________________________________
9.0.1 Master's Signature
I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to accept this slave as my property, body and possessions, and to care for them to the best of my ability. I shall provide for their security and well-being and command them, train them, and punish them as a slave. I understand the responsibility implicit in this arrangement, and agree that no harm shall come to the slave as long as they are mine. I further understand that I can withdraw from this contract at any time.
Signature:_____________________________________________________________________
1.0.0 Slave's Role
The slave agrees to submit completely to the master in all ways. There are no boundaries of place, time, or situation in which the slave may willfully refuse to obey the directive of the master without risking punishment, except in situations where the slave's veto (see section 1.0.1) applies. The slave also agrees that, once entered into the Slavery Contract, their body belongs to their master ,, to be used as seen fit, within the guidelines defined herein. All of the slave's possessions likewise belong to the master , including all assets, finances, and material goods, to do with as they see fit. The slave agrees to please the master to the best of their ability, in that they now exist solely for the pleasure of said master .
1.0.1 Slave's Veto
The slave, where appropriate, holds veto power over any command given by the master , at which time they may rightfully refuse to obey that command. This power may only be invoked under the following circumstances, or where agreed by both master and slave:
- Where said command conflicts with any existing laws and may lead to fines, arrest, or prosecution of the slave .
- Where said command may cause extreme damage to slave's life, such as losing their job, causing family stress,etc.
- Where said command may cause permanent bodily harm (see 4.0.0) to the slave .
- Where said command may cause psychological trauma to the slave, such as a rape scene for a slave that has been raped in the past.
3.0.0 Punishment
The slave agrees to accept any punishment the master decides to inflict, whether earned or not.
3.0.1 Rules of Punishment
Punishment of the slave is subject to certain rules designed to protect the slave from intentional abuse or permanent bodily harm (see 4.0.0). Punishment must not incur permanent bodily harm, or the following forms of abuse:
- Blood may not be drawn at any time. Punishment must stop immediately if blood is drawn
- Burning the body
- Drastic loss of circulation
- Causing internal bleeding
- Loss of consciousness
- Withholding of any necessary materials, such as food, water, or sunlight for extended periods of time
Since the body of the slave now belongs to the master , it is the master's responsibility to protect that body from permanent bodily harm. Should the slave ever come to permanent bodily harm during the course of punishment or in any other slavery related activity, whether by intention or accident, it will be grounds for immediate termination of this contract, should the slave so desire. Permanent bodily harm shall be determined as:
- Death
- Any damage that involves loss of mobility or function, including broken bones.
- Any permanent marks on the skin, including scars, burns, or tattoos, unless accepted by the slave .
- Any loss of hair, unless accepted by the slave .
- Any piercing of the flesh which leaves a permanent hole, unless accepted by the slave .
- Any diseases that could result in any of the above results, including sexually transmitted diseases.
The slave may not seek any other master or lover or relate to others in any sexual or submissive way without the master's permission. To do so will be considered a breach of contract, and will result in extreme punishment. The master may accept other slaves or lovers, but must consider the slave's emotional response to such actions and act accordingly. Under no circumstance should the master allow such actions to unbalance the slave emotionally, or allow such actions to result in ignoring the slave . The master may give the slave to other masters, provided the rules of this contract are upheld. In such a situation, the master will inform the new master of the provisions stated herein, and any breach by the new master will be considered a breach by the master as well, subject to all rules stated in this contract.
6.0.0 Secrecy
All physical evidence of the slavery will be kept in total secrecy, except where both master and slave agree. Any violation of this clause shall be cause to terminate this contract, should the injured party wish it. The materials and physical evidence shall be kept under lock and key in a place acceptable to both parties.
7.0.0 Alteration of Contract
This contract may not be altered, except when both master and slave agree. If the contract is altered, the new contract shall be printed and signed, and then the old contract must be destroyed.
8.0.0 Termination of Contract
This contract may be terminated at any time by the master , but never by the slave, except under special conditions explained within this contract. Upon termination, all physical evidence of the slavery, including this contract, will be destroyed, and all materials and belongings shall belong to the master , to be shared or kept as they see fit. The slave , owning nothing and having agreed to give up all worldly possessions and body to the master , shall once again own their body, but nothing else, unless the master decides to give back their possessions.
9.0.0 Slave's Signature
I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to give everything I own to my master, and further accept their claim of ownership over my physical body. I understand tha I will be commanded and trained and punished as a slave, and I promise to be true and to fulfill the pleasures and desires of my master to the best of my abilities. I understand that I cannot withdraw from this contract except as stated in this contract.
Signature:____________________________________________
9.0.1 Master's Signature
I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to accept this slave as my property, body and possessions, and to care for them to the best of my ability. I shall provide for their security and well-being and command them, train them, and punish them as a slave. I understand the responsibility implicit in this arrangement, and agree that no harm shall come to the slave as long as they are mine. I further understand that I can withdraw from this contract at any time.
Signature:_____________________________________________________________________
Using Contracts in D/s Relationships
A contract is a physical document outlining the D/s relationship. At the bottom of this post I’ll share an example contract that you can use to customize your own. A contract is not a legally binding document, but more of an agreement between two consenting individuals. Some are very formal and have multiple pages, others are as brief as a few paragraphs. A D/s contract is a lot like a pre-nuptial agreement.
The Arguments
The other side of the argument says that contracts are worthless and the two individuals involved need to be serious about the relationship without the need of a contract. If the relationship is failing a contract is just not going to resurrect it. This side also says that if the contract is discovered by the authorities you can be charged with prostitution and solicitation or worse. It has happened before, just check the news archives.
General Outline
- Petition
- Names and Roles of Parties
- Term of Service
- Rules, Duties, and Goals
- Limits
- Termination Requirements
- Signature of all Parties
(This D/s contract, can be altered to suit one’s needs both virtual and realtime situations. It is not a legal binding document but adds to the strength of one’s relationship. It is written in the male Dominant/female submissive role, but can be easily changed.)
I, [submissive], with a free mind and an open heart; do request of [Dominant], that he accept the submission of my will unto him and to take me into his care and guidance, that we may grow together in love, trust, and mutual respect. The satisfaction of his wants, desires, and whims are consistent with my desire as a submissive to be found pleasing to him. To that end, I offer him the use of my time, talents, and abilities.
Further, I ask, in sincere humility, that as my Master, he accept the keeping of my body for the fulfillment and enhancement of our sexual, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs. To achieve this, he may have unfettered use of my body any time, any place, in front of anyone; to keep or give away, as he will determine.
I ask that he guide me in any sexual, sensual, or scene-related behavior, both together with, and separate from him, in such a way as to further my growth as a person.
I request of [Dominant], as my Master, that he use the power in his role; to mold and shape me; assisting me to grow in strength, character, confidence, and being, and that he continue to help me develop my artistic and intellectual abilities.
In return, I agree:
- To obey his commands to the best of my ability.
- To strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibitions that interfere with my capability to serve him and limit my growth as his submissive.
- To maintain honest and open communications with him.
- To reveal my thoughts, feelings, and desires without hesitation or embarrassment.
- To inform him of my wants and perceived needs, recognizing that he is the sole judge of whether or how these shall be satisfied.
- To strive toward maintenance of a positive self-image and development of realistic expectations and goals.
- To work with him to become a happy and self-fulfilled individual.
- To work against negative aspects of my ego and my insecurities that would interfere with advancement of these aims.
This I, [submissive] do entreat, with lucidity and the realization of what this means, both stated and implied, in the conviction that this offer will be understood in the spirit of faith, caring, esteem, and devotion in which it is given.
Should either of us find that our aspirations are not being well served by this agreement, find this commitment too burdensome, or for any other reason wish to cancel, either may do so by verbal notification to the other, in keeping with the consensual nature of the agreement. We both understand that cancellation means a cessation of the control stated and implied within this agreement, not a termination of our relationship as friends and lovers. Upon cancellation, each of us agrees to offer to the other their reasons and assess our new needs and situation openingly and lovingly.
This agreement shall serve as the basis for an extension of our relationship, committed to in the spirit of loving and consensual Dominance and submission with the intention of furthering self-awareness and exploration, promoting health andhappiness, and improving both our lives.
This contract has a life of ___ (days/weeks/months/years). At it’s expiration a new contract may be created and signed.
I offer my consent to submission to [Dominant],under the terms stated above on this the _____ day of ____________ in the year _____.
______________________________
signature of submissive
I offer my acceptance of submission by ____________, under the terms stated above on this the _____ day of ____________ in the year _____.
______________________________
Signature of Dominant
The submissive prayer
Allow me the strength
to gain understandings of things I cannot fathom
Allow me the spirit
to know Your needs
Allow me the serenity
to serve You in peace
Allow me the love to
give myself to You
Allow me the
tenderness to comfort You
Allow me the wisdom
to be an asset to You
Let me show every day
my love of my service to You
Let me open myself to
completely belong to You
Let me take my
punishment with the grace
Let me love myself by
loving You
Let me learn to
please You, beyond myself
Grant me the power to
give myself to You
Give me the strength
to please us both
Allow me the honor of
serving You
For it is my greatest
gift, my highest pleasure
to make Your life...
Sub's Serenity Prayer
Master, grant me the
serenity that comes with your control, the obedience to follow your
instruction, and the understanding to know your wisdom.
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