The Bottom
The bottom is the person who in the B.D.S.M lifestyle enjoys receiving sensation. They always wish to be on the receiving end of the flogger or other sensation. The bottom may direct the session before or during the session; the bottom maintains the control. The act of bottoming is not always sexual. The bottom does not release real control to the top rather it is more of a mutual partnership. Some good examples of “The Bottom” are those who are in to the spanking sect of the lifestyle. I have met spankers who will tell you they are not submissive and they don’t have a submissive bone in their body. They are in this for the sexual pleasure of the pain. The bottom is more of a role played rather then a state of mind.
The Bedroom Submissive
The best way to portray this type of submissive is in every facet of life s/he may be vanilla or even Dominant but when the bedroom door shuts the roles drop and s/he submits to the Dominant. The bedroom is where the power exchange happens and stays. This is almost always sexual. In the bedroom the act of submission is complete, however when the bedroom door is open the bedroom submissive returns to the vanilla world or role.
The Psychological Submissive
The psychological submissive begins his or her submission in their mind. This submissive is submissive in and out of the bedroom. They generally have a need to submit or surrender to a Dominant. The act of submission is mental. S/he can give as much or as little as they wish ot or need to give. They then become the responsibility of the Dominant to determine the direction of the relationship. The surrendering is the power exchange. Once the surrender occurs they can become an empty vessel for the Dominant. Love is not required, as this is a mental and psychological submission.
The Slave Heart Submissive
This submissive wishes to surrender everything without becoming a slave. In comparison with the psychological submissive, a slave heart submissive craves the love of the Dominant they submit to. The act of submission is full of emotion and love. S/he gives all they have for the return of love and trust from the Dominant they serve.
The Slave
Unlike the submissive, a slave must surrender completely and be in complete control of a Master. The slave must feel completely owned. The slave usually feels like nothing until Masters gives them a slave identity. When Masters is happy the slave is happy. Many slaves I have talked to feel this way. They feel most complete when with Masters. The slave beams when s/he brings Master pleasure. The slave must surrender, and the slave is not happy until s/he has surrendered. The slave feels completed when surrendering to a Master.
These are subcategory of submissive's
• Gorean, this is becoming the largest group because of the popularity of the subculture and also because of the number of masters that enjoy these aspects of the lifestyle. I would suggest readinghttp://www.housemalkinius.com/zwwhyslave.html However, the best original text is John Norman’s Slave Girl of Gor.
• Sex Slaves are people who are available for sexual acts and ordinary social conventions or legal protections that would otherwise constrain an owner's actions are not effective. Vanillas believe there must be coercion in this, but in fact very little of it such. At times sex slaves are used in prostitution. Slave is de facto an object of sexual interest and usually required to maintain an alluring image.
• Domestic Slave, this actually used to be the largest group. These are the people who work in the home of the master/mistress and do the cooking, cleaning; take care of the house and at times even mind dominants children. Many times they are expected to entertain their master/mistress and quests with music play and skits when not doing other duties.
• Pain Slave is an individual to whom the act of sex is bland without pain. Some are even totally asexual and wish only to suffer. Many men fall into this category seek either Femdom mistress or Bears depending on their orientation. Some pain slaves seek this role simply to fulfill the need to be punished for things in their former life, or over time have grown to relate pain directly to pleasure.
• Pet is a slave who surrenders their humanity to their master/mistress. These roles usually exhibit animal attributes, (Pony, Dog, etc) and have a life similar to a pet. Typically this is not a sexual role, and many pets abstain from sex. They however, will exhibit themselves in the nude at all times, walk on a leash, urinate and defecate in public (like a back yard or park). Many times a pet is refused the right to speech. They also fed from a floor or bowl.
• Breeder is a woman whose sole role is to bear children and lactate. Many times breeders are simply the receptacles for others (including artificial insemination). Typically breeders do not keep their offspring but surrender them to their master/mistress. Sometime these offspring are made available to the public for adoption.
• Cow/Pig is a total dehumanized role. Cows/Pigs are never considered human either by their dominant or themselves. They are usually keep penned/cage and used as wished without any consideration for their feelings, desires or wants. Often these slave are subjected to major body alterations as well. A cow or pig also is usually only feed left overs or slop never proper meals. And like a pet always from a floor or bowl, never allowed any furniture, including a bed.
• Pharoanic or Worship slaves tend to devote not just their bodies and submit their will but also transpose their adherence to faiths to their master or mistress. The dominant becomes godlike to the slave, and they will pray in private to their god, act in total submission and never question any act word or request of their new god. These slave usually undergo rituals such as circumcision (male and female) or minor alterations to signal their adoration to the their god-master/mistress.
• Ofper is actually a sacrifice slave. They have evolved out of the Mayan, Aztec and later Satanic rites of human sacrifice. Today the lives are not taken but many are very ritualistically surrender a physical part of themselves. The difference with this is they usually conduct their act once in their life before a group as a spectacle. The best known recent examples, is the Bourbon Street practice of deflowering ceremony where a woman surrenders her virginity to a group as a rite of passage.
There are many variations on this, and many slaves combine aspects of the other roles into their personae so it is not clear where many of the divisions lay. Again this lifestyle is about personal choices and so as I said in the start; there are as many variations as there are people and sometimes the labeling of the person or role actually diminishes what they are or trying to accomplish.
I hope this gives you some insight, I have only given the highlights because any of these roles is extremely complex and could take a major dissertation to discuss in full detail. If you wish to discuss why you think you are of a particular type I will gladly respond as well. But I would suggest you look at the above and see if you are in fact not a modification or combination or both of the above.
The bottom is the person who in the B.D.S.M lifestyle enjoys receiving sensation. They always wish to be on the receiving end of the flogger or other sensation. The bottom may direct the session before or during the session; the bottom maintains the control. The act of bottoming is not always sexual. The bottom does not release real control to the top rather it is more of a mutual partnership. Some good examples of “The Bottom” are those who are in to the spanking sect of the lifestyle. I have met spankers who will tell you they are not submissive and they don’t have a submissive bone in their body. They are in this for the sexual pleasure of the pain. The bottom is more of a role played rather then a state of mind.
The Bedroom Submissive
The best way to portray this type of submissive is in every facet of life s/he may be vanilla or even Dominant but when the bedroom door shuts the roles drop and s/he submits to the Dominant. The bedroom is where the power exchange happens and stays. This is almost always sexual. In the bedroom the act of submission is complete, however when the bedroom door is open the bedroom submissive returns to the vanilla world or role.
The Psychological Submissive
The psychological submissive begins his or her submission in their mind. This submissive is submissive in and out of the bedroom. They generally have a need to submit or surrender to a Dominant. The act of submission is mental. S/he can give as much or as little as they wish ot or need to give. They then become the responsibility of the Dominant to determine the direction of the relationship. The surrendering is the power exchange. Once the surrender occurs they can become an empty vessel for the Dominant. Love is not required, as this is a mental and psychological submission.
The Slave Heart Submissive
This submissive wishes to surrender everything without becoming a slave. In comparison with the psychological submissive, a slave heart submissive craves the love of the Dominant they submit to. The act of submission is full of emotion and love. S/he gives all they have for the return of love and trust from the Dominant they serve.
The Slave
Unlike the submissive, a slave must surrender completely and be in complete control of a Master. The slave must feel completely owned. The slave usually feels like nothing until Masters gives them a slave identity. When Masters is happy the slave is happy. Many slaves I have talked to feel this way. They feel most complete when with Masters. The slave beams when s/he brings Master pleasure. The slave must surrender, and the slave is not happy until s/he has surrendered. The slave feels completed when surrendering to a Master.
These are subcategory of submissive's
• Gorean, this is becoming the largest group because of the popularity of the subculture and also because of the number of masters that enjoy these aspects of the lifestyle. I would suggest readinghttp://www.housemalkinius.com/zwwhyslave.html However, the best original text is John Norman’s Slave Girl of Gor.
• Sex Slaves are people who are available for sexual acts and ordinary social conventions or legal protections that would otherwise constrain an owner's actions are not effective. Vanillas believe there must be coercion in this, but in fact very little of it such. At times sex slaves are used in prostitution. Slave is de facto an object of sexual interest and usually required to maintain an alluring image.
• Domestic Slave, this actually used to be the largest group. These are the people who work in the home of the master/mistress and do the cooking, cleaning; take care of the house and at times even mind dominants children. Many times they are expected to entertain their master/mistress and quests with music play and skits when not doing other duties.
• Pain Slave is an individual to whom the act of sex is bland without pain. Some are even totally asexual and wish only to suffer. Many men fall into this category seek either Femdom mistress or Bears depending on their orientation. Some pain slaves seek this role simply to fulfill the need to be punished for things in their former life, or over time have grown to relate pain directly to pleasure.
• Pet is a slave who surrenders their humanity to their master/mistress. These roles usually exhibit animal attributes, (Pony, Dog, etc) and have a life similar to a pet. Typically this is not a sexual role, and many pets abstain from sex. They however, will exhibit themselves in the nude at all times, walk on a leash, urinate and defecate in public (like a back yard or park). Many times a pet is refused the right to speech. They also fed from a floor or bowl.
• Breeder is a woman whose sole role is to bear children and lactate. Many times breeders are simply the receptacles for others (including artificial insemination). Typically breeders do not keep their offspring but surrender them to their master/mistress. Sometime these offspring are made available to the public for adoption.
• Cow/Pig is a total dehumanized role. Cows/Pigs are never considered human either by their dominant or themselves. They are usually keep penned/cage and used as wished without any consideration for their feelings, desires or wants. Often these slave are subjected to major body alterations as well. A cow or pig also is usually only feed left overs or slop never proper meals. And like a pet always from a floor or bowl, never allowed any furniture, including a bed.
• Pharoanic or Worship slaves tend to devote not just their bodies and submit their will but also transpose their adherence to faiths to their master or mistress. The dominant becomes godlike to the slave, and they will pray in private to their god, act in total submission and never question any act word or request of their new god. These slave usually undergo rituals such as circumcision (male and female) or minor alterations to signal their adoration to the their god-master/mistress.
• Ofper is actually a sacrifice slave. They have evolved out of the Mayan, Aztec and later Satanic rites of human sacrifice. Today the lives are not taken but many are very ritualistically surrender a physical part of themselves. The difference with this is they usually conduct their act once in their life before a group as a spectacle. The best known recent examples, is the Bourbon Street practice of deflowering ceremony where a woman surrenders her virginity to a group as a rite of passage.
There are many variations on this, and many slaves combine aspects of the other roles into their personae so it is not clear where many of the divisions lay. Again this lifestyle is about personal choices and so as I said in the start; there are as many variations as there are people and sometimes the labeling of the person or role actually diminishes what they are or trying to accomplish.
I hope this gives you some insight, I have only given the highlights because any of these roles is extremely complex and could take a major dissertation to discuss in full detail. If you wish to discuss why you think you are of a particular type I will gladly respond as well. But I would suggest you look at the above and see if you are in fact not a modification or combination or both of the above.
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