How Bondage and Multiple Orgasms Could Enforce Control of Your Submissive.
Orgasm Control
In another article we discussed the way orgasm control is used to
increase the control a dominant has over his or her submissive. Control
over a person's right to sexual release leads to a very strong bond of
interdependence between the two parties. Orgasm control also has another
element to it in BDSM - that of forced orgasm. What is a forced orgasm
and why would this be a tool of dominance? Before we answer that
question we are going to look at exactly what an orgasm is and how we
can make sure that orgasm really is achieved. 52% of women have faked
and continues to fake orgasms today. The dominant needs to know what to
look for in order to use this tool properly. We will then look at how we
achieve a forced orgasm.
What exactly is an orgasm?What! You think we don't know? Well if you know how to identify it, take this as a refresher or contact my dominant and make him make me pay for this flagrant abuse of power. Anyway, during the female orgasm the body stiffens and muscles in the vagina, uterus and or other parts of the body such as the arms, legs, back or stomach contract involuntarily. Due to an increase in heartbeat the skin may look flushed and the genitals seem engorged. The glands of the vagina discharge a watery secretion that lubricates the area and sometimes this secretion seem to "squirt" out of the woman especially when the g-spot has been stimulated. Women can have multiple orgasms following each other in quick succession.
The male orgasm is seemingly much harder to fake as the male ejaculates a milky white substance on release. The pelvic thrusts of the male become less controlled, heart rate and blood flow increases and some muscle spasms may be felt in other parts of the body. Some men report only having the psychological orgasm after ejaculation and some men even report that they can have orgasms without ejaculation. Males generally need a period of rest before being able to orgasm again.
In most cases orgasm is vocal and the sense of release is often accompanied by less than elegant grunts or screams for both men and women.
How is orgasm achieved?
No, I don't think you guys are clueless. I aim to inform as best I can. One of the main ways of achieving or causing orgasm is by stimulating the penis or the clitoris or g-spot in women. This can be done by use of vibrators, masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, non-penetrative sex, erotic electro stimulation, spanking etc. Orgasm in women can also be achieved by stimulation of any other erogenous zone or using psychological stimulation.
How is forced orgasm achieved and what exactly is it?
Forced orgasm is when the dominant brings the submissive to an orgasm while the submissive attempts to delay that orgasm for as long as they can. After the first orgasm the dominant will normally continue the process and cause multiple orgasms despite the discomfort a female submissive will feel, as her genitals might be sensitive. Males will be continually stimulated despite the period of rest that would normally be required after an orgasm.
How is this normally done? Well, the submissive could be tied down in order for the genitals to be accessible and the submissive should not be able to move much. Then the dominant could use any of the techniques mentioned earlier in the article to cause continual orgasm.
Why is forced orgasm such an attractive option for both dominants and submissives?
For the submissive forced orgasm is a wonderful experience because he or she knows that release follows even when discomfort is felt in between. It plays on the pleasure and pain principles that are central to quite lot of erotic stimulation in BDSM. The submissive can also relax and has no need to feel shame, as he or she has no control over the orgasm or when it happens. The submissive can just be submissive and safe. The submissive with sexual guilt issues can express their sexuality freely in this way and this will help that submissive to experience sex differently and much more positively.
The dominant partner will have different reasons for being attracted to this form of play. The aim might be to cause the submissive to become addicted to orgasm in order to pave the way for a period of orgasm denial. Remember that orgasm denial can be achieved in a variety of ways that are detailed in another article of mine like teasing and tying, teasing and denying and chastity devices. During orgasm denial no orgasms are allowed anymore. The dominant partner might also want to use this form of play as punishment for a submissive partner that cannot control their own sexual impulses and cannot obey rules on masturbation.
The control factor is a head rush for most dominants and the physical reactions of the submissive cause arousal and excitement for the dominant partner too.
As with all BDSM activities a safe word can be used to stop all activities.
By Bea Amor
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